Ep 397 Make It Beautiful So You Want To Come Back
If you want to stop over-drinking but you keep abandoning every journal, tracker, urge that hits, and morning routine you start, this episode is for you. Quitting drinking gets a lot easier when the work stops feeling like a punishment.
For twenty years, I gave alcohol the good glass, the beautiful thoughts, the longing feelings, the candle, the music, and the best hour of my day.
Then I started doing the work to stop over-drinking and I handed that an exhausted self at the end of the day, no patience left and no kind words.
And then I wondered why I kept going back to the wine. Obviously, I changed that and learned how to be with myself and accept what was happening inside of me and made that ritual something I wanted to connect with.
The problem for most of you is that you've started a practice you don't want to return to.
We come back to places that have been tended. That's true of a kitchen, and it's true of the ten minutes you spend with yourself every morning. So in this episode I'm walking you through how to make the work of quitting drinking beautiful enough that you actually want to come back to it tomorrow. Almost none of it costs money.
What we cover:
- Why you keep quitting your own practice
- The outside stuff — the notebook, the chair, the hour — and why that's only a small part
- Slowing your breath down before you start, because you cannot arrive somewhere beautiful at a sprint
- Greeting yourself when you sit down: thanks for connecting with me today
- Why "thank you" builds something that "good job" never will
- The tone you take with yourself on the page, and why nobody returns to a place where they get yelled at
- How you end a session, and why that decides whether you come back
- What I learned about tending yourself walking 173 miles on the Camino de Santiago
- What to do when the emotion you're processing is genuinely hard and there's nothing pretty about it
This one is for the woman who looks completely fine on the outside, the career, the family, the house, and is quietly exhausted from the cycle of over-drinking and breaking promises to herself. Especially if you're in a season of change: retirement, an empty nest, a career shift, newly single, caring for aging parents.
You already know how to make something beautiful enough to return to every single day. You did it with wine for twenty years.
We're taking that back and pointing it at you.
ABOUT ANGELA:
I'm Angela Mascenik, a certified life coach who helps women stop over-drinking and start living.
I over-drank for twenty years while raising three kids, building a career, and keeping a good marriage and a nice home — functional on the outside, struggling on the inside. Life coaching changed everything for me, and I've been alcohol-free for eight years. Now I do this work with women all over the world.
My approach is compassionate and completely shame-free. We get to the root of why you're drinking in the first place, and we work on boundaries, emotions, mind management, and learning to put yourself at the top of your own priority list. A big part of what I teach is learning to feel and process your emotions instead of reacting to them — getting out of your head and into your body.
You can work with me privately - https://form.typeform.com
in a small group called the Transformation Program -www.angelamascenik.com/transformationprogram, or at one of my sober retreats at The Magic House, my retreat center in Lisbon, Portugal - www.angelamascenik.com/magichousefounderscircle